YOUR FRIENDS AND NEIGHBORS (1998)

If they ever give out a special award for deceptive video box copy (in Hell, perhaps), then I can't imagine a more deserving winner than Your Friends and Neighbors. Observe:  "Three couples. A dozen relationships. A million problems.   One of the most talked about comedies of the season, Your Friends & Neighbors is the story of six people who can't seem to stay out of each others' lives or each others' bedrooms. Six of today's hottest young celebrities star in a film that critics raved about. If you enjoy passion, lust, sexuality, and light-hearted humor, this is your circle of friends."

That last sentence is the kicker.  Imagine it, if you will, attached to the back of Dante's Inferno.  It makes me wish I had the nerve to sue distributor Gramercy for fraudulent advertising.  I know that any jury in America forced to watch the movie would make me rich in compensatory damages.

Your Friends & Neighbors seems to be a movie that wants to show you the true nature of a certain type of people; the soullessness, isolation and capacity for psychic violence possessed by the white middle-class.  However, since Your Friends & Neighbors crafts characters barely within striking distance of reality, it comes nowhere close to succeeding.  Your Friends & Neighbors may actually reassure the very type of people that Neil LaBute wishes to shake up.  No self-absorbed asshole is going to recognize themselves in any of the characters on screen.

For example, there's Catherine Keener as Terri, who in the midst of having sex with her husband Jerry (oh, yes), says, "Is there any chance you could shut the fuck up?"  I haven't been married, but I bet that there are situations one person could say this to another during sex, particularly if one person has drunk so much they have no inhibitions left and are in
their most reptilian, thoughtless state.  Hey, okay, maybe.  But not only does Keener's character go on to not act drunk, her character goes on and on about how she wants her partner to be quiet.  In fact, later in the movie, after she's bedded down Natassja Kinski's Cheri, she compliments the sex by saying, "You were very good. Very...quiet."  Other similar scenes give you the idea that Keener's character is obsessive about the other character being silent which, frankly, is absurd.  I can certainly see LaBute once having lunch with a woman friend who told him that she can't come if the other person is making any noise, and him seeing this as a grand metaphor for how sex, an act that is supposed to bring people together, can be an act of isolation.  But LaBute's lack of subtlety takes this idea to the point that Keener's Terri comes off as a thwarted necrophiliac.  Now goodness knows there are thwarted necrophiliacs in this society, but not enough, I suspect, to use them as a convincing
argument about the lonely isolation at the heart of the middle class.  The apex of LaBute's invention is Cary, played by Jason Patric (also a produceron the film).  Cary is a literally incredible creation, an angry, swaggering chunk of brutality
brimming with self-righteousness and contempt behind a handsome demeanor.  This seems to be the sort of thing that LaBute excels at--Cary seems a close cousin to Chad, Aaron Eckhart's character in LaBute's previous movie, In the Company of Men.  But whereas Chad had enough of a relation to real life to cause chills, Cary is a doctor that goes into a screaming rage when a woman he's brought over to fuck has her period on his sheets.  The scene is sharply written enough that I could almost, almost, almost buy it...if the character was not a doctor.  I've had friends and roommates that were nurses, med school students, and actual residents and there is no way, no matter how vaginaphobic, that an actual doctor is going to freak out over blood on his sheets.  It just has no basis in reality at all.  Which if you're trying to make a point about modern society is not a good thing.

LaBute's attacks are so easy, so cheap and so obvious, yet delivered with such extreme commitment and talent, I would almost believe that Your Friends & Neighbors is actually a parody of the type of serious drama that castigates the middle class for their soullessness, isolation and capacity for psychic violence.  (And I'm not one to play the parody card very often.)  This would explain why I kept laughing toward the end when, really, almost all of the characters end up in their own various hells.  As with In the Company of Men, the bad are rewarded and the good are stripped of illusions about themselves, a view of life that most people who think of themselves as good surely torture themselves with when they're gripped
with despair.  But Your Friends & Neighbors is the work of an artist so far afield it remains comically unconvincing.  If LaBute can throw all of his powers into either something more personal or more whimsical, he might have something.  But if he continues down this path, he'll be mighty unwatchable mighty soon, and accomplish little nothing more than confusing some
impressionable college students.

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